Lost eroticism and the crystal generation.

Sexual abundance kills desire. We don't miss repression; we miss the mystery that made us want.

Lost eroticism and the crystal generation.

Available sex killed eroticism. When everything is accessible, nothing is desirable. The generation with the most access to bodies reports less sex than their parents. Statistics baffle: total freedom, minimal desire. The infinite menu paralyzes; abundance produces anorexia.

Desire needs an obstacle to exist. Without a veil there is no mystery; without mystery there is no desire. Nudes in the first message, sexting before coffee. Total transparency produces accessible but undesirable bodies. Grandparents desired each other through letters; grandchildren get bored with explicit photos.

The contemporary analysand arrives bored amid the greatest sexual offer in history. They don't lack access; they lack desire. They don't lack bodies; they lack the other. Analytic work consists of reintroducing the lack that Tinder promised to eliminate and which turns out to be the very condition of desire.

Psychotherapy

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